“ I span and Eve span
A thread to bind the heart of man;”
By these two initial lines in her poem, I think Gilmore wanted to refresh the reader’s mind of a of feminine love that desires exclusivity with her man. But of course! Who does not want it that way, male or female. Despite the permissiveness of our society today, exclusivity with your spouse/partner is still the ideal ,proper concept of man-woman relationship.
Love pathways between man-woman encounter may among other ways include
(a) love at first sight vis-a- vis mutual attraction
(b) whirlwind romance
The above two pathways does not allow much time of getting to know one another.
This time shortage acquaintance often leads to marital failure.
(c) The normal or shall I say, usual process of boy meets girl involving developmental stages in the relationship is more reassuring. This route involves meeting —-> liking—-> friendship —-> courtship —->going steady —-> engage-
ment —-> wedding. Along these stages is time to become close and know each other’s ways, likes and dislikes ,values, dreams and other nuances as well as finances.
Knowing enough of the prospective partner in life prepares one to accept or reject the prospect. Most probably this long route also prepares one to understand, tolerate and accept the person for what she or he is. This could diminish the pain of disillusion when disillusion moments come.
Gilmore tried to picture for the readers an Aussie woman trusting her man to be strong,
faithful, sensible, responsible and appreciative of her. I would like to think that, that is where lurks a trouble spot. Not all persons show their true colour prior to marriage. Some individuals are flippant. The receiver of flippancy is thrown into emotional and psychological turmoil. This is unhealthy. No wonder Gilmore mentioned thoughts of quitting from some women quarters.
Some women suffered from the feeling of being trapped in a quagmire. Others though maintained their wifely bearing and perhaps their integrity. They stayed put and patient for the sake of their children. They persevered. And again, I would say, but of course! Hope springs eternal. I would not fault them for that. The lying irresponsible man comes home, gets forgiven and welcomed back. Ouched. Sigh. A deep sigh.
Submitted to Prof. Michael Griffith